Thursday, February 3, 2011

Day by Day

I couldn't wait for 2010 to be over with, as it was such a disappointing year in so many ways...I was hoping 2011 would be a fresh start and much better!  I couldn't have been more wrong!  2011 has proved a shakey start to say the least, on so many DIFFERENT levels!  Yesterday for the first time, I finally realized something that has been in front of my face for MONTHS!  I learned a very hard, yet disappointing lesson.  But, it was as if a weight was lifted off my shoulders!

So, I ran across this poem today and it literally brought me to tears...I'm no longer going to dwell on people who continually bring my spirits down by their own selfish choices.  People who think it's OK to write horrible things about you to someone else, behind your back (and people that support that)!!!  These people think they are 'victims' and have it so bad...trust me, you don't...wait until you have a parent, sibling, aunt, who are fighting for their lives...ALL AT THE SAME TIME!!

“One night, I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky. In each scene, I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was only one. This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow, or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints, so I said to the Lord, ‘You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there has been only one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?’ The Lord replied, ‘The years when you have seen only one set of footprints, my child, is when I carried you.’”

This poem is a needed reminder to me that I am not alone, I have family and real friends who are there for me at the drop of a hat...and that God will never leave my side as I navigate my way through this terrifying journey.



24 comments:

Anonymous said...

I love FOOTPRINTS--- thank you for this reminder on our darkest of days. I am so sorry some one you cared about and invested in emotionally has let you down and hurt you. But guess what, they can't hurt you anymore and BOY have they lost the most treasured and beautiful friend in their bouquet of friends--- can't get any one better or more genuine or more caring than you.
Hang on--you are loved!!!
xoxo
Susan

Anonymous said...

Susan, You said it all! Maureen has always been a very loyal and caring friend and I am NOT the easiest person to get along with. She has been with me thru all the wonderful and sad times in my life, no matter what came along. I for one am so very grateful to have such a person in my life. I am a part of her wonderful family and would NEVER choose to not be a part of it because somebody told me to do it. Maureen, you are not alone during this very difficult time in your life. You are stuck with me sister...:)

Staci

Anonymous said...

Maureen,
I would say that with WONDERFUL friends like Staci, you will be A-OK.
Lots of love coming your way...
Lucky girl!!!
xoxo
Susan

Anonymous said...

It's true that a serious illness to yourself or to someone close to you makes you realize what's really important important in life and that it's not worth wasting on those who bring you down.

As for those who have let you down--it really IS their loss. I think as I get older I realize how rare it is to find true friends. And a real friend is one that doesn't always agree with you, but will be honest with you when she thinks you are making a mistake. A real friend is one who you can laugh with, cry with and fight with--yet they are still there for you the next day.

I've known you long enough to say that you really are such a giving person and a loyal friend to those close to you. Anyone who would allow another individual to erode that is obviously not deserving of your friendship.

Focus on all that you have--you're not alone, you'll never be alone and there are plenty of us who value having you as part of our lives.
xo
Janet

Anonymous said...

Awe, poor Maureen still crying the blues to get everyone's attention. Poor poor me, get over yourself.

Yes people are born and then they die, it's part of the big circle. Sad when our parents pass away, it really is. But is it really all of this. Calling out to the world for a woe is me blog.

People live their lives how they see fit. Those who lead happy lives have small worries, but those who lead lives of deception with guilt, will have a world of pain bestowed upon them.




Luke 6:37

“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;

Enough said!!!!! I suggest you repent and reconsider your life before more pain is cast upon you and your family through the eyes of GOD.

Anonymous said...

How sad that some moron who can't even have the guts to leave a name feels the need to say such hateful things on a blog that you obviously have NO business looking at since you are NOT a friend of Maureen's. Read the title...keeping friends connected. You are NOT a friend. I would suggest you stick to blogs that deal with things that pertain to people like you......take that anyway you like....ENOUGH SAID

Staci

MO said...

The one who doesn't leave their name is a COWARD...but we already know who this toolbag is...so hide behind the anonymous...we know how you work! You are just upset I called YOU out and you know it...it's people like YOU who judge, and why you have NO friends...so please stay OFF my blog!!!

Anonymous said...

Well, I've sat back and I've watched and listened. And If I felt strongly about something, I was not afraid to contact that individual (privately) and express my feelings. If that person felt like they needed share the information, then that is fine. I wanted it to be private as not to upset other people who it does not pertain too.

I have listened to story after story about everything imaginable within the clique. And I guess it's just how certain people operate and that's fine. But when it effects the woman that I love and the friends and family around her, I will speak up and express my concern.

She has not really said anything in a public forum and she has pretty much controlled what I say so I wouldn't upset anyone. But this public bashing of a so-called-once BEST FRIEND has got to stop. It's uncalled for and is definitely not Christian like. For those that practice the Catholic faith, you are truly showing the colors of how Catholics act as opposed to true Christians. I do not claim to be a Christian, but I do know how they are supposed to act and how they should lead their lives and this is not the way.

Since someone else feels the need to quote scripture I will also.
Leviticus 19:18 Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the LORD.

For a certain someone....
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

This is Ironic and does include gazing at porn and masterbation...

(Matthew 5:27-28) 27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery;’
28 but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Nicholson, Martin W
USMC / DAN3

More to follow:

Anonymous said...

Deuteronomy 24:1-2 Divorce and remarriage: "When a woman hath taken a husband, and married him, and it come to pass that he find no favour in her eyes, because she hath found some uncleanness in him: then let her write him a bill of divorcement, and give it in his hand, and send him out of her house. And when he is departed out of her house, she may go and be another man's wife."

Translation to today's times...

So for those who want to play Christian and practice Catholicism, then please practice it. But if you still chose to follow a faith that condones pre marital sex and same sex marriage, but allows it's Priests to openly abuse little boys and cover it up for years, then that is your choice. But blind faith is the worst faith imaginable which is why I never would allow myself to become ordained. Yeah, ME!!!

Nicholson, Martin W
USMC/DAN3

Anonymous said...

So, let's just let everyone live their lives to their fullest and leave everyone else alone before things start to come out that to nothing good but hurt people. And when that's all our words do, then we ourselves become the Devils right hand man...

Let bygones be bygones and everyone move on, AGREED?

Me again

Anonymous said...

you are a fraud and a disgrace to the uniform....

Anonymous said...

WOW, someone has a little too much time on their hands, don't they??!! Maureen should NEVER be ridiculed for using her blog to vent about her feelings as this has been very theraputic for her in dealing with some very difficult things that are going on in her life right now. That is what a "blog" is all about...a way for you to express your feelings, good or bad...sorry that you don't get that! I find it funny that you are quoting scripture about marriage when you have failed at 4 of them. You should be an expert by now. We wish you and Tina the most happiness...you both deserve each other!!
Jody

Anonymous said...

Why would someone who is not Maureen's friend even be looking at her blog???!! She can post what she wants without having to explain herself. This is her forum, for her FRIENDS to read--not some whack job psycho to post nasty comments.

Seriously---get a life.

Janet

MO said...

WOW...!! Marty, keep digging that big hole of yours. You are proving exactly what we've been saying all along...you are have some major issues! This isn't about Tina, it's about what you did. I had to giggle at everything you rambled on about. At least you are right on ONE account...You are NOT Christian...so STOP with the scriptures!!!

You are manipulating, controlling, and everything you post (via FB or other) is scary and threatening, to the point where people have come to ME and asked WTH is wrong with you?! My kids are afraid of you!!! I don't care if you are a Marine or not, you are a MORON! Stop thinking you are Holier than thou...YOU should be the LAST person judging anyone!!! It's because of YOU that all the problems began!!!! So, again, GET OFF MY BLOG!!! I promise not to post about YOU anymore, if you promise to get out of my life once and for all...get your own LIFE!!!!

MO said...

...and lastly, maybe YOU should start reading the scriptures about wives and vows and how all that works...

Anonymous said...

Marty
you are the one judging people you know none of us but keep sending emails via fb or the blog calling us alcholics or whatever the buzz word of the moment is to you. I have only met you once and yet you have already cast judgement. You are a stalker who is obsessed with all of us. You are controlling and I am sure on the verge of abusive. You want to take someone take me on I lnow how to deal with your type I did it for 6 years. I think the best thing you did was take Tina this is the hardest time in Maureens life and all you care about is you and how if effects you well it doesnt. Move on isnt it this the time where you get married or have another kid?

Anonymous said...

Mo, don't even waste your time on such a waste of space. He obviously doesn't have a clue about being a friend or how to be in a relationship without having complete control over that person. It is funny, I agree, that a person who claims to not be a Christian quotes from the bible. Here is another one for ya..."people in glass house......"

Staci

Anonymous said...

So sorry you have to deal with all this bullshit Maureen! Try to focus on your wonderful support system you have and your family! My thoughts are with you!
Lorrie

Anonymous said...

I have always been nuetral and I want to remain that way, however, after reading this I just have to say some things!

First off, whoever made the first comment is a very insensitive person, and obviously is NOT a friend of Maureen's--everyone handle's loss and tragedy differently, so if Maureen wants to vent on her blog, she has the right!!! You have no place on this forum or blog!

2ndly, this whole thing started over an email Marty sent to a friend, spreading nothing but malicious rumors...not sure what his intent was on sending such a mean email--surely no good would come of it--had he not sent it, this post from Maureen would not be on here!
In my eyes, it seems that Marty feels the need to keep butting into Tina's problems, like some father protecting his 10 yr old daughter! In fact, because Marty continually butts into her business, by sending Maureen texts or emails everytime Tina got her feelings hurt, he is the one who has completely ruined what used to be a great friendship...you don't see Maureen's husband sending Tina a text or email everytime Maureen is upset!!!

Marty, it's time to take off the gloves, and step out of the ring...this was never your fight! Tina has a voice and she has handled this her way...you only make things worse!

Anonymous said...

OOPS...by first comment I meant first RUDE comment, aka 5th comment down...

Anonymous said...

Ha... let he who has sex with a married woman and lead her away from her husband come here and quote things such as marriage and love. Adults normally mind their business and allow people to fight their own battles..It seems Marty lacks some adult maturity. He can write as many horrible e mails and texts as he likes.. The truth is he nor her can be to happy with their lives, to still be worried about others.If your so happy keep walking with your head high, and let it be. It's an obvious fact that he has mental issues. I do say before going off and threatening one be sure just of who your dealing with for there is surely someone else out there always crazier than you, and it just might be least expected..
Oh title says Maureens blogs, not Tinas and not Martys so find your own way, and let her (Maureen) have hers.

Anonymous said...

Stewie needs to get a life!

Anonymous said...

wow....he has waayyyyy tooo much time on his hands. what a psycho. anyway...I must say, I enjoy reading your blog. I think about and pray for your family every day. keep your head high!! Karen :)

Anonymous said...

Hi Maureen.
I could not be more shocked and disgusted by the person who wrote the 5th post in this thread. It shows an amazing lack of compassion and is quite shameful. Suffering and sadness and loss are all part of the human experience but this post shows a total lack of humaneness. I am grateful that this toxic person is no longer in your world. Be well Maureen and continue on your path of hope and love and being a generous spirit.
xoxo
Susan